my dad specifically has really been feeding into hypermasculine, gun-loving, “true American” MAGA nonsense. I am gay and while he has no issue with me or my partner he continues to align himself with people who do not believe in my right to exist. He didn’t believe Elon did a nazi salute. He said I was listening to the liberal propaganda. Now that trump has pulled out all the stops and continues to implement project 2025, I question whether I can still be in contact with him. Even if he is not (outwardly) rooting on everything, him not condemning what is happening to me seems like he is doubling down on his beliefs.
I am drained mentally and honestly think that he will continue supporting the destruction of this country and the rights of millions all because he idealizes their “alignment” with masculinity, guns, the military, traditions, etc.
How do I approach the topic with him and tell him it’s either me or these beliefs/trump? Is that selfish of me? I know some people say that this will only further the divide but honestly I feel like things now are irreperable and I should not be involved with people who turn a blind eye to fascism.
I wouldn’t know what’s “wrong” or “right” in these kind of matters.
You should do whatever is better for your mental health.
Are you better without having contact with your father or having contact with him?
It’s the only question here.
You should be aware that you would not change his mind with this or make him question his beliefs. If something his beliefs would probably grow stronger after something like that.
You also should be aware that that action would have zero impact on the far right campaign.
So if you do this is for your own mental benefit, nothing else. Don’t let any kind of pressure on any direction force you to do anything that’s not the best for your mental health.
I would also consider just lowering the amount of contact and see how it goes instead of completely cut ties (an action that would have life lasting consequences)
To be true, for what I read, if I was in your situation I wouldn’t cut ties. You said that he supports you, and for me that’s the important thing in a father. I personally have no issues having personal relationships with people with vastly different political ideologies. My mental health does not suffer from that. But every person is different, so you do what’s best for you.