I get it, I really do. I just also understand why sneakypersimmon is so upset. She replied to a guy’s question with a simple answer and he became very aggressive….over a downvote. He berated her in multiple comments and said he no longer cared about women’s equality because of a downvote. When I mentioned that he could have easily searched it online, he became aggressive towards me. In his own words, he became aggressive because of a downvote. He said he no longer cares about women’s equality because of a downvote, but later calls his question “an act of love”.
I have absolutely nothing against you, I just hope you understand that tensions were already running high and instead of saying something to the aggressor, you replied to the one who was being targeted. It just seems a bit backwards to me.
Women are constantly pushed to the edge about things like this. We are harassed, berated, and assaulted when we do the most every day simple things like stick up for ourselves (not saying any of that applies you specifically). We are told our equality does not matter, we are talked down to, we are told we need to “be nice” to men who are aggressive towards us. It pushes us to our limits at times and this was one of those times.
Edit: All of this could have been avoided if favoredponcho said “I was unaware, thank you for informing me”. But he got pissy and threw a fit…because of a downvote.
Yeah, re-reading through the thread, it’s clear everybody is getting heated and saying dumb shit, myself included. I should have done a better job taking into consideration the context and toned down my language in my comment. I don’t have any ill will towards sneakypersimmon, and I understand why she’s upset, and for good reason. Me calling out one aspect of her post was never meant to be an endorsement of everything leading up to it. Crossed wires in a tense subject I guess. Thank you for being understanding.
No worries dude. Consider it growth from messing up. I’ve done, we all do it. We will probably do it again and learn again. It’s just a good lesson in life.
Have yourself a good weekend and have a good smoke/drink/vice of your choice tonight :)
I get it, I really do. I just also understand why sneakypersimmon is so upset. She replied to a guy’s question with a simple answer and he became very aggressive….over a downvote. He berated her in multiple comments and said he no longer cared about women’s equality because of a downvote. When I mentioned that he could have easily searched it online, he became aggressive towards me. In his own words, he became aggressive because of a downvote. He said he no longer cares about women’s equality because of a downvote, but later calls his question “an act of love”.
I have absolutely nothing against you, I just hope you understand that tensions were already running high and instead of saying something to the aggressor, you replied to the one who was being targeted. It just seems a bit backwards to me.
Women are constantly pushed to the edge about things like this. We are harassed, berated, and assaulted when we do the most every day simple things like stick up for ourselves (not saying any of that applies you specifically). We are told our equality does not matter, we are talked down to, we are told we need to “be nice” to men who are aggressive towards us. It pushes us to our limits at times and this was one of those times.
Edit: All of this could have been avoided if favoredponcho said “I was unaware, thank you for informing me”. But he got pissy and threw a fit…because of a downvote.
Yeah, re-reading through the thread, it’s clear everybody is getting heated and saying dumb shit, myself included. I should have done a better job taking into consideration the context and toned down my language in my comment. I don’t have any ill will towards sneakypersimmon, and I understand why she’s upset, and for good reason. Me calling out one aspect of her post was never meant to be an endorsement of everything leading up to it. Crossed wires in a tense subject I guess. Thank you for being understanding.
No worries dude. Consider it growth from messing up. I’ve done, we all do it. We will probably do it again and learn again. It’s just a good lesson in life.
Have yourself a good weekend and have a good smoke/drink/vice of your choice tonight :)