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  • BenLeMan@lemmy.worldtoCasual Conversation @lemm.ee•Men who are Sensitive AND Expressive, how do you cope?English
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    1 day ago

    Cool idea but human beings crave identity. And gender is an important way to express identity. I think that might be one of the reasons why some people feel so threatened by the existence of non-cis gendered people. Refusing to conform to preconceived notions of identity-by-gender challenges their sense-making processes, inducing anxiety.

    Plus, our entire human race is reliant on the attraction between the sexes. Gender isn’t easily extricable from that. A manly man will always have an easier time finding a woman.

    I like the spirit of human first but I fear it might not be as simple as that.

  • BenLeMan@lemmy.worldtoCasual Conversation @lemm.ee•Men who are Sensitive AND Expressive, how do you cope?English
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    2 days ago

    Thank you for calling attention to this. To answer your question, I try to avoid toxic people. To be honest I still have some deeply rooted beliefs about manhood myself that are similarly hurtful to the ones you named.

    So I don’t know, really. But I’ve been working on myself and on being happy with who I am. It’s definitely paying dividends but I still have some ways to go.

    I’ve sometimes thought that things would be much easier if I were gay because I’d fit the mould in many ways. Except for the most important one, as I’m just not into dudes at all and very much like to be with women.

    Having observed other men through my almost 50 years of life, I find that many are probably just masking their sensitivity behind a veil of foul language, aggressive behavior, and machismo. Those men I find particularly hard to bear.