You describe the ex friend as pressuring you to dump you (in the past) to dump your (at the time) bf and date him instead. This is a person who doesn’t respect your agency or value your happiness.

It’s possible he could be a pleasant experience for a little while, but it wouldn’t last. He wants to be with you not because he believes he can make you happy–that is the foundation of a worthwhile relationship.

Rather, he wants to be with you because he has fantasies about the person he imagines you are. He doesn’t care about who you are, if he did he would care about the relationship you were in and would care about your choice to be in it. He “cares” about who he imagines you are, his fantasy girl who wants him enough to leave her partner. If he were to find out you’re a person, a human person who doesn’t idolize him, the target of his fantasies would change.

The following is a representation of conservative thought:

Because it defies belief! Everyone knows any real superhero team would have NO women, women couldn’t be superheroes! Movies only force us to have women there because of Woke. We can “tolerate” (will still complain about but will give Hollywood our dollars anyway) a 5/6 men/women ratio. If we gotta pretend to be Woke, it better not be more than five sixths!

Source: I was raised in a conservative household and did not fully reject that poison until I was 27.