Tekhne

You can do a lot of sites! https://duckduckgo.com/bangs

I have the same situation. DDG has a feature where you can write “!g query” and search for “query” on Google. I use that as a fallback whenever DDG fails to yield good results - it’s super easy!

Honestly, good security instincts by your dad though. If you’re not technical enough to understand the risks, you probably shouldn’t be connecting to random servers

Or looking for asexual men! Not all asexual men are aromantic, which sounds to me like what you’re looking for - someone who wants a romantic relationship but not sex. Or maybe someone demisexual - interested in sex, but only with someone they already have romantic feelings with.