Don’t suggest hobbies or human contact. It’s been suggested and it doesn’t work.
I have a job I don’t particularly hate nor like, some coworkers I get along with others are just morons, I go to work, then buy groceries, go home, eat, watch tv, go to bed. Rinse and repeat.
On my free days I do sport and watch pirated netflix. I don’t spend much money on clothing or media and save most of my paycheck. What for? I have no idea. I don’t eat out because I like cooking my own food and restaurants are expensive and the food is bland.
Everything is so expensive nowadays btw…
Most people bore me. I’m like an atheist monk.
I don’t want to kill myself or anybody fwiw. It’s like I don’t give a crap about anything or anyone and don’t see what’s the point of living.
I don’t want to travel because it costs money.
As soon as my cognitive abilities start to fail I’m going to be very easy prey for any online scammer.
Therapy.
Change one thing just because you can. Take a different way to or from work, whether it is walking (and leaving much earlier), or a different bus/train or car route.
Listen to your favourite songs… look at the birds around you. Borrow a book from the library and read it, one bit at a time. Make the choices in your life, deliberate and DIFFERENT. Break your routine. Feel human.
Then you can choose to join a casual sports team, a minecraft server, something else for human contact.
There was this guy, I think a big shot from wired magazine, that would try to sit in a different chair every day, with the goal of breaking his habits, which was his way of getting new ideas.
The hobbies are being suggested because you clearly need a new element to spice up your life. Tbh i always felt the same way as you did, barely satisfied by what life has to offer. My answer to this is distraction, i cannot really sell you on why its the answer its just that deep down I know that novelty is the only aspect of life that has the potential to enrich it. Pick a new source of distraction that offers bottomless rabbitholes.
Spend your money, travel, get outside your comfort zone and challenge yourself. Or get professional help.
*And/or
There is no point to living. For every single reason someone found, someone else doesn’t care about that at all. If there is a point to living, we haven’t found it yet.
That said. Try self-improvement. Read about psychology. Analyze your own mind. You might find some stuff pointing you towards something.
For example. Why do you say “I save most of my paycheck. What for? I have no idea” and “I don’t want to travel because it costs money” just a few sentences apart? This doesn’t make any sense. You save money for nothing yet you don’t travel because it costs money? To me, this suggests some conditioning you’re a victim of, something like just following some predefined set of rules because someone (probably parents) once said “you should be saving money” and “you should not spend money on unnecessary things”. But these are just arbitrary beliefs. You don’t have to follow them.
Or. Are you afraid of something? But kinda would like to do it if it wasn’t scary? Go do it. What have you got to lose? Nothing matters anyway, right?
You might just notice if you do these two things, there is actually stuff to live for, you just haven’t found it because you either had social conditioning or fear that stopped you from it.
You, my friend, need an adventure. Any adventure, even if it sounds small and dumb.
I creeped your post history (sorry) - did you end up taking that bus trip you talked about a few months back? If so, what was that like? If not, any reason why you feel you shouldn’t do it now (or soon)?
I’ve felt like you before, at least the way you’re describing it. My solution was mundane adventure - walk a stupid amount to a place you could easily get to by car. Strike up conversations with strangers by leaving your phone alone re: directions/things of interest/etc. unless absolutely necessary. Set yourself some boon to obtain - a beer at Pub X, a meal at place Y, whatever - and make the journey a little less convenient/a little more scenic than you might do by default.
The above isn’t for everyone, obvs, but take the idea of an adventure or ‘quest’ and see if anything strikes you. It can be as grand or mundane as you want it to be.
Just one option among others.
Volunteer, seriously, this changed my life. Maybe a dog rescue, or some political fight.
The best way to cheer yourself up is to try to cheer somebody else up. -Mark Twain
I’ve seen this more than a few times, as well as felt it myself. It’s a particular form of situational depression.
In short, the solution is to “find your tribe”.
Your problem is 2 fold.
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Humans are a social animal. We need a group to socialise with, to be stable and happy. The requirements vary, but it’s almost always non-zero. The lack of meaningful contact sends us into a downward spiral.
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99% of people are boring to you. This is actually completely fine and reasonable. Unfortunately the 1% that aren’t boring to you tend to be hard to find. Even worse, weirder people tend to mask. They pretend to be normal and boring to fit in.
The goal, therefore, is to find what 1% you need and where they congregate, with their masks down. They are out there, you just need to find them. You do this by trying new hobbies and activities. Most won’t hit the mark, but some will resonate with you. It’s OK to try a lot of things before you find it.
For me, it was a makerspace. I actually ended up founding one, since there wasn’t one locally. I’ve seen a number of other people come along and discover there really is a group of weirdos that they fit into that aren’t boring. They, in turn, add their brand of weirdness to the group and make it better for all involved.
Without knowing more about you, I can’t point you in the right direction. I can say they are out there. You just need to find them.
Go find your tribe.
Edit to add:
You preferably want to find somewhere in person, not online. There is a lot of social feedback that our minds need, that gets lost with online communication. Online is better than nothing, but it’s a service station mac Donald’s compared to a Michelin star restaurant.
This is some good feedback. Not op but I have a genuine question if you are a middle aged man. How would you engage people that may be younger than you 20s and up and not look like or at least feel like a creep. Other than my wife I have basically no friends that share my interest. But can’t engage for fear of coming off as a creep.
Just engage. Make sure you are fully committed to not being a creep, and play your part. Lots of youngsters want and need older role-models/mentors/whatever. As long as you are clear with maintaining and signaling your boundaries, it can be a really positive experience for everyone.
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Could it be depression?
Anyways, would you be able to recall at the end of the day something nice that happened to you, even if small? Gratefulness is my personal path to inner peace doesn’t matter if big or small. And even if you decide to not take this path, you can use the memory of that good moment to 1 make it happen more often, or 2 invest your time/thoughts to make it even better next time it happens or 3 follow up and build on top of it.
Have you tried getting a pet?
Having another life to care for can give your life meaning.
Sounds like depression. If you have some savings, it might be worth it to see a therapist to find out.
Hey, I just want to say that in case you did give therapists, SEVERAL times, a chance to be a solution, and they showed themselves to be charlatans, you may want to consider that they are absolutely not the end all be all that some people may sound them to be.
I don’t have the answer, but there are leads to follow still. Someone here was suggesting giving your time to help others. If possible, this may actually help. Or not… Then try something else. Just don’t think therapists know it all, because they sure as fuck don’t…
A therapist that claims to know it all or makes promises that they can help you (esp. Short term) is just a licensed grifter. Can that fucker and find one that gives a shit.
The most significant factor for success in therapy is that the therapist has a similar condition to yours and they’re engaging in therapies that worked for them. Next it’s important they look like you (share your demographic somehow). Your dedication comes immediately after that.
Op why don’t you suggest what an acceptable reply looks like? You’re pretty restricted on what type of advice you’re seeking. Maybe then folks can ad libs in the thing that will help.
Most people bore me.
I don’t want to say that there aren’t boring people, but c’mon… You’re no troubador yourself. People don’t exist to keep you from being bored.
Living for the sake of not dying is not a living itself. People find meaning in lots of things: art, religion, bullshitting, pushing the bounds of knowledge, making loved ones laugh.
The meaning we make is our own and we share that living journey with a few others. It can be amazing and difficult and complicated. It’s rare to have someone truly get you, but we put ourselves out there because get got is so good.
Get a dog and pamper it.
Looking at what you’ve written here, it seems like you don’t actually have a hobby. I would have a go at something you did when you were a kid- maybe you were really into books, maybe you were into cycling, painting, whatever really. But don’t just try it a few times then give up if it doesn’t feel how you want it to feel, try turning it into a project. For example, I wanted to get back into reading books, but I just didn’t enjoy it. So I tried to find out what made me love reading so much as a kid, then recreate that in the present. I tried reading late at night, by the light of a lamppost like I did when I was super into books, and that brought back the enjoyment I used to have. You don’t have to go down that route, the main idea here is to find a new hobby, something to look forward to rather than just existing for the sake of it.
I just picked up reading again as well. I loved James by Percival Everett. The great thing about picking up reading again is all the great stuff that’s come out the last couple decades.








