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  • cynar@lemmy.worldtoComic Strips@lemmy.worldNow vs. 1815
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    4 days ago

    You can still have an eidedic memory (as mentioned by Brenstar).

    A photographic memory is just a perfect visual memory.

    I tried training it once. It didn’t go well. It turns out I’m mostly aphantastic as well. I can still have fully visualised dreams however, which is always odd.



  • I’ve seen this more than a few times, as well as felt it myself. It’s a particular form of situational depression.

    In short, the solution is to “find your tribe”.

    Your problem is 2 fold.

    • Humans are a social animal. We need a group to socialise with, to be stable and happy. The requirements vary, but it’s almost always non-zero. The lack of meaningful contact sends us into a downward spiral.

    • 99% of people are boring to you. This is actually completely fine and reasonable. Unfortunately the 1% that aren’t boring to you tend to be hard to find. Even worse, weirder people tend to mask. They pretend to be normal and boring to fit in.

    The goal, therefore, is to find what 1% you need and where they congregate, with their masks down. They are out there, you just need to find them. You do this by trying new hobbies and activities. Most won’t hit the mark, but some will resonate with you. It’s OK to try a lot of things before you find it.

    For me, it was a makerspace. I actually ended up founding one, since there wasn’t one locally. I’ve seen a number of other people come along and discover there really is a group of weirdos that they fit into that aren’t boring. They, in turn, add their brand of weirdness to the group and make it better for all involved.

    Without knowing more about you, I can’t point you in the right direction. I can say they are out there. You just need to find them.

    Go find your tribe.

    Edit to add:

    You preferably want to find somewhere in person, not online. There is a lot of social feedback that our minds need, that gets lost with online communication. Online is better than nothing, but it’s a service station mac Donald’s compared to a Michelin star restaurant.