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  • DrSoap@lemmy.world
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    Using AI to choose a date venue is low effort. It is not “research” and the “wrong tool.”

    To spell it out, dating is about getting to know a potential partner and to let that partner get to know you. When I choose a date, I share a part of myself, a restaurant I love, a movie special to me or a cozy coffee of conversation.

    To be in an art class together, a museum and coffee would have most likely been the perfect first date where the asker shows the askee some of their favorite works.

    To outsource the emotional labor of a relationship, especially so early on where everything is exciting and new is not a good sign, male or female. Dr. Moose, something is wrong with you that you reacted this strongly to a quippy little post.

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      Dr Moose is probably the man from mentioned art-class, deducing from his reaction 🤤

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          I have no issue with that in fact I’m very much a feminist but just like there are incels on the toxic manosphere there are incels on the toxic “man bad because small mistake, better just eat snack and entertain yourself” femisphere. It’s just these cringe losers being vocal I have issue with.

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      oh please. How is it any different from scrolling through Google Maps or whatever other research tool? Also you assume that person in question has no struggles of their own - what if they’re autistic or in general very poor at planning and need assistance? Clearly they didn’t have a malicious intent even from the accusers pov and clearly tried.

      To outsource the emotional labor of a relationship

      emotional labor? this is first date, they hardly know each other. They are clearly older people too so this is not a highschool romance. Absurd.

      Dr. Moose, something is wrong with you

      sorry for calling out lunacy but all it takes for rational people to say nothing and allow these extremist lunatics to take over culture. And for the record I like cancel culture, I like social justice, I like ethics and responsibility but this is nothing of the like - this is just incels.

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        If I’m asking somebody out on a date I’ve got at least a vague idea of what that date would look like.

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          Great me too. I can also reach the top shelf, but that doesn’t give me the permission to shit on short people. Some people have social and planning difficulties and we shouldn’t shun and shame them but educate, encourage and even accommodate them especially when it was clearly a good faith attempt.

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            Your version of accommodation is removing the human element in the one thing that should be most human. The fact you cant see the difference between asking AI and using google maps tells me you are struggling with this concept. That you think first dates dont carry emotional weight sorta seals it.

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              Your version of accommodation is removing the human element in the one thing

              what are you even on about? how is querying “date places” in chatgpt any different from typing in “date places” in google maps? just because you get text output instead of a visual one? it’s just a computer my dude.

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        Oh please. Here you go assuming that a widow of 12 years has no struggles of her own. Why are you so fired up? She found ultimate love, lost it. Tried to venture out and date again and she didn’t like it. She returns to her peaceful life.

        Why do you need her to date her AI dependent classmate so badly?